# A relationship is like a bank account Created: 2022_02_27 21:30 Tags: [[Relationships]] [[Psychology]] [[Advice]] There many different bank accounts with many different banks. Some require close watching while some others you barely need to pay mind to. The ones that you need to closely watch are because you are dealing with them day to day and every little thing you do around them is either a withdrawal or a deposit and no one likes to be withdrawn from too much because either you may not have the funds or they are at an uncomfortably low level. You shouldn't let accounts go negative, if they do then you create resentment and risk losing that account all together. Some accounts aren't worthwhile enough so you let them go negative and eat the bankruptcy but do know that multiple failed accounts has one common denominator, you, and that will affect your credit, your reputation with other accounts. ChatGPT came up with: 1. A relationship, like a bank account, requires regular deposits and withdrawals. In a relationship, these "deposits" might include acts of love, kindness, and appreciation, while "withdrawals" might include neglect, criticism, or disrespect. It is important to make more deposits than withdrawals in order to keep the relationship healthy and strong. 2. Both a relationship and a bank account require balance. In a relationship, this means that both partners should give and receive equally. If one person is always giving while the other is always taking, the relationship will become imbalanced and may suffer as a result. 3. Both a relationship and a bank account can accumulate interest over time. In a relationship, this might mean that small acts of kindness and appreciation can lead to deeper feelings of love and connection. 4. Both a relationship and a bank account can be overdrawn. If a relationship becomes too imbalanced or if there are too many withdrawals and not enough deposits, it can become strained or even break down. Similarly, if a bank account becomes overdrawn, it can lead to financial problems. ## References - https://www.gottman.com/blog/invest-relationship-emotional-bank-account/ - 5:1 ratio of deposit:withdrawal - Negative emotions compound so either make them worthwhile or let them go -